Everyone on Earth is trying to get their needs met. Behaviors are developed toward this end. While all behaviors meet needs, some behaviors are better than others for achieving the same goal.  

For example, if someone wanted to acquire a car, there are literally thousands of ways to do this. One way would be to steal one. The upside is, you would have a car fast and free. The downside is, you could end up in jail, losing your freedom and a whole lot more.

Another way to get a car would be to save the money you earn from your job and buy a car. 
The upside is, you'll appreciate the car more since you earned it; you won't have to deal with the fear of getting caught; the car is truly yours; and, having bought the car legitimately, you won't end up in jail. The downside is, it’s not as fast and cheap. 

Your happiness always needs to be considered when deciding which routes 
are best for meeting your needs.

Choosing paths with the greatest upsides and the least downsides is the best way to cultivate happiness in your life.
Happiness is a Byproduct of Choices
Walk in the rain, jump in mud puddles, collect rocks, rainbows and roses, smell flowers, blow bubbles, stop along the way, build sandcastles, say hello to everyone, go barefoot, go on adventures, act silly, fly kites, have a merry heart, talk with animals, sing in the shower, read childrens books, take bubble baths, get new sneakers, hold hands and hug and kiss, dance, laugh and cry for the health of it, wonder and wander around, feel happy and precious and innocent, feel scared, feel sad, feel mad, give up worry and guilt and shame, say yes, say no, ask lots of questions, ride bicycles, draw and paint, see things differently, fall down and get up again, look at the sky, watch clouds and name their shapes, watch the moon and stars come out, trust the universe, stay up late, climb trees, daydream, do nothing and do it very well, learn new stuff, be excited about everything, enjoy having a body to travel around in, listen to music, find out how things work, make up new rules, tell stories, save the world, 
make friends with the other kids on the block, and do anything else that brings more happiness, celebration, health, love, joy, creativity, pleasure, abundance, grace, self-esteem, courage, balance, spontaneity, passion, beauty, peace, relaxation, communication 
and life energy… 
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